Bärbel Warzdetzki
Psychotherapist and author
“The hungrier someone
after love, affection and attention, the more likely she is to believe all these excessive flatteries «
Dr. Wardetzki, how does a toxic relationship begin?
Usually with love bombing. So with a lot of positive confirmation, a lot of attention - this is typical for the beginning of narcissistic relationships, whether partnership or friendship. And the more hungry a person is for love, attention, attention and affirmation, the more likely he or she will fall for this show. The more likely he or she is to believe all of this excessive flattery. A first emotional dependency develops, another person gives me what I am looking for so much, what I so long for.
But then there will soon be devaluation. The new partner, colleague or girlfriend, for example, becomes aggressive out of the blue with trivialities. Or criticize a lot. Or reacts with painful silence, just because you don't have time or you disagree on one point. These are situations where you have to be careful and ask yourself: "Oh, what kind of person is that?"
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Dr. Bärbel Wardetzki (born 1952) is a psychologist, coach and author of several bestsellers. She has been dealing with the subject of narcissism for almost 30 years. Her interest in the topic arose from her psychotherapeutic work with eating disordered women at a psychosomatic clinic when she discovered that women also have narcissistic problems, not just men. This resulted in her book "Feminine Narcissism". Wardetzki has written numerous other books on the subject, most recently “And that should be love? How to free oneself from a narcissistic relationship ”(dtv). She holds lectures and seminars at home and abroad and advises the self-help group "Narcissistic abuse in relationships and work" in Munich,
"And that should be love ?: How to free yourself from a narcissistic relationship" (dtv)
Bärbel Wardetzki uses a clear example story to reveal the mechanisms of narcissistic relationships. The book helps to quickly identify narcissists and typical destructive behaviors and encourages those affected to break up. Above all, however, the psychologist shows specific ways to liberation.